Do you have hurts, fears or barriers as a single parent that have kept you out of church and far from God? Discover the truth of faith that transcends your experience and explore what it means to be set free and live with true joy.
The Ultimate Love Story
First of all, I am thrilled you are on this page, and so is God. Your faith, and what or who you put your faith in, will be the core decision that affects everything else in your life. That said, there is nothing solid enough to put your faith in except Jesus Christ. Everything else you try to fill that void in your heart with will ultimately disappoint you…relationships, careers, money, health, even your kids. You and I were simply not designed to get through this life without Jesus at the center, grounding us, guiding us, and most importantly, loving us.
As a single parent I understand that you may be a little jaded, and that before you can put your hope and faith in Jesus, you have to know who he is and who he isn’t. He isn’t the one who ran off and left you with all the responsibility. He isn’t the one who lies to you just to get what he wants. He isn’t the one who says one thing and does another. And he isn’t the one who broke your heart.
He desperately wants you to know who he really is. He’s the one who has your back when you’re in trouble. He’s the one who not only knows your hidden dreams, but the one who planted them in your heart before you were born. He is the one who heals your child in the middle of the night because he knows you don’t have insurance and the one who comforts you when you sit on your bedroom floor crying after all the kids are asleep. He’s the one who stops at nothing to pursue you and win your heart. And above all, he’s the one who laid down his life to save yours. He doesn’t just talk love, He is love. Perfect love. Love that overcomes fear and evil and even death itself.
You have barriers up, I know. You’ve been hurt, lied to, betrayed. You’ve done things or things have been done to you that have convinced you that you’re disqualified, unworthy. Before you go any further, I’d like you to watch a video of a man named Lecrae who was raised by a single parent and had all of those same obstacles.
Do you relate to some of the barriers Lecrae had? Here’s the three I heard:
1. A poor experience with his earthly father. We tend to form our opinions of our heavenly father from our experiences with our earthly father. So if your father was harsh, critical, abusive, or absent, it’s possible that one barrier between you and God is that you have mistakenly projected those same qualities on him.
2. Hurts that he blamed God for. Maybe you lost a parent or a child, or were abused or suffered another tragedy that was utterly unfair and devastating, and you can’t get past how God could have allowed that if he really loved you.
3. Feeling out of place at church. You may have grown up in church and done all the right things that Christians are supposed to do and still felt empty. Or you may have tried church one time and felt so uncomfortable you never went back. In both cases, if your church experience did not make Jesus irresistible, then it probably wasn’t giving you an accurate picture of who he really is.
When you know Jesus for who he really is, your barriers will drop and you will want him! If you don’t want Jesus yet, or feel skeptical or even critical, listen to how author John Eldredge describes him in his book Beautiful Outlaw:
He is the playfulness of creation, scandal and utter goodness, the generosity of the ocean and the ferocity of a thunderstorm; he is cunning as a snake and gentle as a whisper; the gladness of sunshine and the humility of a thirty-mile walk by foot on a dirt road. Reclining at a meal, laughing with friends, and then going to the cross.
That is what we mean when we say Jesus is beautiful.
But most of all, it is the way he loves. In all these stories, every encounter, we have watched love in action. Love as strong as death; a blood, sweat and tears love, not a get-well card. You learn a great deal about the true nature of a person in the way they love, why they love, and, in what they love.
Jesus was and is fiercely intentional about one thing…convincing you of his love. He pursued the cross, even knowing what a brutal and humiliating death it would be, because he was so in love with you. Not just the world in general, but you, personally. Listen to this verse in light of that love: “I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (John 14:6) Either you believe him to be so arrogant that he makes a claim no other leader of any world religion ever dared to make, or you believe that it’s true, and that he loves you enough to shoot straight with you knowing your life hangs in the balance.
God knew you were born with a limp called sin and that you wouldn’t get through this life without a broken heart. He knew you would reject him and misunderstand him and blame him for all the brokenness in this world and in your life. Sending his son Jesus to die in your place was the only way for you to get back to him and the only appeal that would be convincing enough to win your heart.
If you could behave your way to heaven, Jesus’ life and death wouldn’t have been necessary. He didn’t die on the cross to make you be good, he died to make you be his. His offer is available to anyone and those who sinned the most will be just as welcome in heaven as those who sinned the least. Salvation is given freely under one condition. You simply take in Jesus’ ultimate act of love for you on the cross, humble yourself in gratitude, and ask for his forgiveness and grace.
If you are ready to say this and mean it, speak straight to Jesus from your own heart. Your prayer can sound something like this:
Jesus, I don’t want to do this life on my own anymore. I need you. I see you for who you really are…God’s son, love in the flesh…and I am so humbled that you would love me enough and think I’m important enough to lay down your life and die a horrible death on the cross for me. I can’t tell you how grateful I am. I confess I have done things that hurt others and I’ve blamed you for things that have hurt me. Please forgive me. I know you do, so I receive your forgiveness and grace. I turn away from my old life and turn to you as my Savior and Lord. Come in to my heart and make your home there. Love me, lead me, live through me. I am fully yours.
If you decided to surrender your life to Jesus through what you learned on this page or through any part of the ministry of Single Parent Missions, please let us know! We would love to know your story and what ultimately led you to make this decision, but most of all we want to celebrate you and send you a special gift to help you remember this most important decision of your life! Please email your name and photo and any part of your story you are comfortable sharing to the following: firstname.lastname@example.org